Are you tired of hearing about hate? It seems like everywhere you turn, it’s the biggest problem in America. The media portrays hate in such a harsh and divisive way, creating tension among entire populations.
But let’s talk about hate in a different context – affairs. Weird as it may sound, hate actually has a role to play when dealing with affairs. If you don’t hate enough, you’ll encounter problems. It’s better to have a little too much hate than not enough when it comes to dealing with affairs.
When you lack enough hate, you leave room for affairs and affair thinking to creep back into your marriage. You might make excuses for your spouse’s behavior and even doubt yourself, wondering if you could have prevented the affair.
Believe me, I know how strange it feels to embrace hate. It took me a while to realize its benefits. You need that energy to overcome the affair and move forward. Hate can provide you with the energy you need in overcoming the affair.
Giving yourself permission to hate is a journey. It takes time to become comfortable with hating. The more I’ve worked with affairs, the more I’ve learned to hate them.
I hate affairs and the destruction they bring. I hate how they tear families apart and make people feel.
But let me be clear, you can’t just hate without a strategy. You need to use hate as a tool to rebuild your life after an affair. Love alone can cover up and hide things, making excuses for people and situations. Hate, on the other hand, confronts and removes the dangers associated with the affair. It recognizes potential risks.
Even St. Paul understood this when he said to “speak the truth in love.” Love alone can overlook the truth, so you need both love and hate.
Hate gives you the energy to speak truthfully in tough situations. You can still love the cheater, but it’s important to hate the affair and the lying.
Hating the affair and lying also means cutting ties with bad influences. Remove any influences that promote infidelity from your home.
When you hate affairs and lies, you eliminate the possibility of them happening in your life. Not hating enough leaves the door open to future affairs in your marriage. With all the pressures on marriage these days, that’s not something you want.
So, as much as I love the idea of “All you need is love” like the Beatles sang, when it comes to affairs, you need more. You need a healthy dose of hate.
If you’re ready to take action against affairs and make important changes to your marriage, check out the downloadable “Affair Recovery Workshop“. Just click the link, fill out the form, and within minutes, you can start making a difference.
There’s no room for tolerance when it comes to affairs. Don’t wait to take action. Deal with them head-on and protect your marriage.
Keeping it real,
Jeff
