As a father, I cherish the time I spend talking with my sons. We discuss their achievements, challenges, and setbacks, providing a valuable perspective on life. However, a recent incident has left me deeply concerned.
During an interaction with a higher level manager, my son was told, “Don’t let your principles get in the way of your job!” The irony of this statement is overwhelming. While meant as a warning, it reveals a disturbing lack of values held by this manager – prioritizing the job over all else. Although I was shocked by the statement, it is common in many large businesses.
This mindset is not only alarming but also detrimental to businesses as a whole. Holding onto a job at any cost may seem like the right move, but as compromises are made, we slowly sell out our principles one piece at a time. People don’t turn evil overnight. The transition to evil happens one choice at a time. This slippery slope can lead to unethical behavior, as anything becomes fair game when principles are secondary.
Imagine if that manager had said, “Don’t let your principles get in the way of your relationships!” This is the mindset of cheaters, willing to violate principles and lie in order to maintain an extra-marital relationship. Such attitudes begin with small compromises, eventually leading to the complete abandonment of one’s principles.
Selling out our principles doesn’t end when we leave work for the day. Principles are not something we can simply put on and take off like clothes. We don’t have one set of principles for our home and another for the workplace. This is especially true for those recovering from an affair. Ending the affair is only the beginning – true recovery involves removing the affair from the cheater’s heart and mind, no matter where they are.
If you or your spouse is in danger of relapsing into an affair, it’s essential to take action now. In my video “Preventing Affair Relapse,” I provide guidance on spotting warning signs and supporting your partner through this challenging phase of recovery.
Let’s prioritize principles once again and ensure a future free from the dangers of affair relapse. Order your copy of the video today and let me help you on this journey.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
