Category: affair relapse
The dangers of doing Affair Recovery alone.
There are things you can do to help your marriage stay strong. Doing affair recovery by yourself is risky. Although the world tells you that you can do it
Is your spouse throwing a fit because they can’t have their affair?
There’s something oddly entertaining, yet tragic witnessing a child pitching a fit in a store. When the child cries out “I’ll die if I don’t get Frostie Flakes” (or
The real cost of just an old friend from high school
One of the many dangers I warn people about are old flames. They have ways of re-igniting old emotions and attachments. This is one of the reasons I encourage
Letting go of triggers and obsessions
Letting go of triggers and obsessions related to the affair requires skill and practice. Although it’s good that you know what your straying spouse’s triggers are, you can’t control
Affair Recovery: Urges and Relapse
Have you ever noticed how the more you give into urges, the more powerful they become in your life? Not only are they stronger, they come more often. They
When an addict relapses, Part II
Yesterday I shared with you about when an addict (or cheater) relapses. That response focused largely on the addict and what happens with them. Since relapse, whether it be
When an addict relapses, part I
As a counselor, one of the things I look for when reading mail from readers with questions is patterns. The patterns help me understand what they are struggling with.
How did I get into the mess I’m in?
It breaks my heart reading emails from those of you who continue struggling after the affair is over. The common theme is that the cheater is back, yet they’re
Stopping the next Affair
Are there times you wish you’d seen the affair coming? You may have even beat yourself up over how you missed something you should’ve seen. You may have missed
Control and Affairs
Control is a fascinating topic, especially when it comes to marriage relationships. I say fascinating in that so couples try substituting control for love, then wonder why there are
