Category: Emotional Recovery
I’m not obsessed, I just think about it all the time
You have probably hear yourself or someone else tell you “I’m not obsessed, I just think about it all the time”. Although jokes are often made about obsessions, when
What makes rebuilding trust after the affair so hard?
Have you ever considered “What makes rebuilding trust so hard?” In thinking through this one, several items come to mind. I haven’t rank ordered them in terms of priority,
Saying good-bye to the lover
It would be nice if you could say good-bye once and be done with everything. All relations and connections severed with one good-bye. The reality is that the good-bye
The divorce fantasy
As unpleasant as it is, the topic of divorce is often associated with affairs. One of the parties has fantasies of how a ‘divorce’ will somehow fix things, or
Mistrust and Misery, Flesh and Bone
In preparing for a webinar on trust, I discovered that the word ‘mistrust’ has the same root as ‘misery’. On one level, you may find that ‘interesting’. I think
Condemining the easy choices
It may be hard for you to consider the affair from the cheaters perspective. For whatever reason, needs were not being met within the marriage. You will need to
Ignorance and Forgiveness
In a recent webinar on Forgiveness with Doug and Linda, I addressed many of the issues related to forgiveness. In addressing these issues, it became clear that many couples
“You need to get rid of that _________!”
When parents or in some cases, older children find out about an affair, they often have strong opinions. Don’t be surprised when they tell you to get rid of
Payback Affairs
Although it’s convenient quoting the saying “fight fire with fire“, taking such action with affairs creates massive problems. Some of you spouses used an affair to either begin or
Building trust after the Affair
In our fast moving culture, you expect things to happen fast. This also includes the healing of the marriage relationship after an affair. You want things to happen as
