Category: Emotional Recovery
The Danger of Passivity
Being passive is a sure way to allow cheating to destroy your marriage. In dealing with cheating, you need to take action, whether you are the cheater or the
Dealing with Self-Loathing
Once news of the cheating has come out, in some cases, it is followed by self-loathing by the cheater. The self-loathing may be mild or extreme. When spouses are
Jealousy, a laughing matter?
One of the recent commercials from the superbowl dealt with cheating. The commercial took a humorous angle on a topic that impacts too many homes around the world. The
Trauma and Affairs
When people have suffered traumas, especially sexual traumas, there are some potential risks regarding affairs. Depending on the intensity of the trauma, they may find themselves unable to say
Are you suffocating your spouse?
When you begin working on your marriage relationship, one of the potential dangers is that of suffocation. By suffocation, I am referring to emotional suffocation. Although the intentions may
All Affairs are not created Equal
When in comes to dealing with affairs, the public and family don’t react the same to all types of affairs. They each have unique challenges and questions. When affairs
Separating Shame and Guilt
Previous generations often used the term “Shame! Shame!” or “Shame on you!” as a way to confront some behaviors. On hearing those comments, the receiver was doused with emotional
Rebuilding Trust starts with a Decision
Trust starts with a decision. It doesn’t occur automatically or by instinct. Remember the first time you trusted your partner? What did it take? Probably, your love enabled you
Rebuild Trust with the Bricks of Time and Forgiveness
Going through an affair and surviving it is a lot like having your house blown by tornado. It is very difficult to rebuild, it is very difficult to know
Is ambivalence after the Affair normal?
When ambivalence hits after an affair, some people assume that something is wrong with them. They wonder if it’s normal having feelings of love and hate (or loathing, disgust,
