Archive for January, 2009
If you want to be notified the next time I write something, sign up for email alerts or subscribe to the RSS Feed. Thanks for reading. Many times people who consider the affair option have difficulties with short-sightedness. They think of short term gains their decision will provide them with rather than considering the […]
With affairs, the dangers and damage are not always those that are seen. One of the major damages done in affairs is that concerning reputation. The damage done to reputation impacts the cheater along with their family. Although all kinds of excuses are made to justify participating in the affair, the damage affects the whole […]
Affairs have a way of messing up the lives of people and their families. Given the destructive nature of affairs, there are some places that people should never have affairs, not hook up with someone at. Although some adulterers are turned on by the increased danger of these locations, the potential impact of them is […]
“I can’t believe it!” is often the response when a spouse hears rumors that their partner is having an affair. It is a moment of shock and disbelief. When you hear rumors about an affair what can you do?
1. Find out the facts. This does not mean argue with your spouse about them. Does the […]
Affairs and secrets go hand in hand. Much of the power of affairs lies in their secrets. When there are secrets, they will eventually get out, either through direct disclosures or rumors. The danger of rumors is that they can do some of the same damage as an affair could, even if no affair occurred. […]
Affairs are expensive. The price tag of affairs have many hidden costs that are not seen on the front end. Among the cost of affairs are the trinkets purchased to appease the spouse and lover, legal expenses for divorce and child custody, loss of reputation, loss of position, loss of security, loss of family stability, […]
For those of you who are in the midst of an affair, a question that needs your attention is “How do you want your spouse and children to learn about the affair?” Although most think that they are too smart to get caught or that they are clever, the likelihood is that your family knows. […]
In the aftermath of an affair, it is critical to know what your main goal is. Many times couples confuse the goals and it creates a mess. Do you want to get back with your spouse or do you want to prove them wrong? Many times the goals people are after are exclusive. In this […]
Do you know the differences between admiration and infatuation? Sadly many couples do not and the blurring of those two often lead to affairs. This blurring is particularly problematic in vocations where a power imbalance exists. When there is a relationship based on a power imbalance, such as teacher-student, dentist-patient, police officer-citizen, pastor-layman, boss-employee, there […]
One of the things that does not mix with affairs is alcohol. Since alcohol often ‘loosens’ people up and allows them to lower inhibitions, it creates an added danger with affairs. Alcohol is particularly dangerous when those partaking have fantasies about affairs. In many ways the desire for the affair is the ‘root’ problems that […]
