One of my own personal heroes had a habit of collecting saying he encountered in his daily living. Eventually he published his collection of those sayings.
Over the years, I’ve found that collection of sayings inspiring and insightful His habit has inspired me to collect quotes I encounter that inspire me.
At talks and conferences, I hurriedly write down inspiring quotes as soon as possible after hearing them. I have learned how to write fast in order to capture the valuable nuggets I hear.
One I heard from Jason Whiting is “When you become deceptive, your spouse becomes deceptive as well”. His comment sheds light on how deception impacts your relationship.
You may think that you’re smart enough to deceive your spouse. In all likelihood, you’re being deceived in similar measure as well.
They may be hiding things from you beyond what you thought possible. Rest assured that if you’re hiding something, they’re hiding stuff as well. You don’t know the full extent of the deception.
Quotes like his expose some of the ugly realities that happen in your marriage. You may not want to believe it, but that doesn’t change the validity of his statement.
Deception shows up in many ways. Lies, misdirection, sneakiness and hiding are only a few of the ways deception shows up in your marriage.
The more troubling truth is that once deception shows up, it continues growing and spreading. Deception makes it hard to know the truth and recognize it when you see it.
If deception has entered your marriage, it’s time for a relationship tune-up. One way you can tune things up is by improving communication.
Remember, it’s not just about opening up ways of talking with each other. Communication also includes making connection, learning ways of being there with your spouse, taking risks, building trust and learning new ways of how to open up with each other.
In the 30 Days to a Better Marriage program, you can learn ways of changing the habits in your marriage and get things going back in a healthy direction. It will also add stability and security to your marriage.
Keeping it Real,
Jeff
