When you find yourself in the midst of recovering from your spouses affair, friends can be be either a help or a hindrance. It will be a time where you find out about the quality of friendships you have and the moral fiber of your friends. If your friends are like the associates of Sex in the City, you may find yourself feeling pressured to do things that you otherwise would not want to do. You will be emotionally vulnerable in the aftermath of an affair, and some ‘friends’ will exploit that and steer in in directions of what they want to do.
Good solid friends will want you to consider what is in YOUR best interest both now and in the future. They will steer you in the direction of doing what is morally right. That does not mean that it will be pleasant or easy, but it will be the right thing to do. They will provide you encouragement, support and be willing to confront you on the items where you are not doing what is right. If your friends are not willing to do such things, you have good time buddies and not the kind of friends that you need in recovering from your spouses affair.
The people you surround yourself with also tells a great deal about you. If you have few or no friends, you may need to find some. One of the tragedies about affairs is that for many, your spouse is your best friend. When you loose trust in your spouse, your best friend has also let you down and abandoned you. If this is the case, this is the time you need them most, yet feel most distant from them. If you are feeling this way, you are not going crazy, you are caught in a crazy situation. Recall the times that you were able to talk, and consider what they would have told you in such circumstances.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
