The recovery community is very familiar with the words of Father Martin. One of his quotes that is very insightful is “Feelings are what we have the most of, but know the least about”. This is true in dealing with the effects of an affair. After an affair, there is a deluge of feelings, which need to be explored, but instead are often discharged and gotten rid of rather than addressed.
If you want to get well and heal, you will need to acknowledge those emotions. You may not understand them all, but you can know where they are coming from and what triggered their activation. When you know where they come from and what each one is telling you then you are on your way to healing. Rather than deny the feelings, find out what they are telling you.
