Whenever I travel to another city, the time always arrives that the luggage has to be brought in. Even in marriages, the baggage eventually has to be brought in. This is also true in coming to terms with affairs.
When an affair happens, before one can make sense out of what happened, the event has to be considered in the context of the adulterers life. In some cases, the events leading up to the affair can be explained when the baggage they bring with them are considered. What is the baggage?
The baggage that’s brought into relationships contains unfinished or unresolved issues from childhood, unresolved issues from previous marriages or relationships, drugs and alcohol abuse, and other addictive behaviors including sexual addictions.
Such baggage does not let the infidel off the hook. Knowing the baggage allows you to understand what the affair/cheating means. Knowing what it means will help in coming up with the best way to deal with the situation.
The affair is often a poor choice in the meeting of legitimate needs. They have come up with the wrong solution to the problems of their lives. They may or may not realize the error of their choice, which often complicates the situation.
Knowing your partners/spouses baggage goes a long way in dealing with relationship problems.
Best Regards,
Jeff
