For those of you who are in the midst of an affair, a question that needs your attention is “How do you want your spouse and children to learn about the affair?” Although most think that they are too smart to get caught or that they are clever, the likelihood is that your family knows. If they don’t know the details, they know that something is different, that you have changed. Eventually they will put the pieces together.
Would it be better that an honest answer came from you concerning the affair or would you have them learn about it from friends, acquaintances, mysterious phone calls, divine intervention or discovery of the evidence. Since people often guess wrong and make assumptions that are not accurate, do you want them to learn about you that way or from you. If you are going to get past this thing, it will require courage, honesty and communication. Rather than avoid the issues, you will need to face them. You will need to face the consequences or potential consequences of your actions and choices. If you do the damage control, than you will have some say in things. If you wait until they find out, it may be the lawyers and others will be doing damage control in which you will not have control over anything.
Think about the question. You will also need to take action now rather than wait for something to happen and someone to find out.
Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
