It continues amazing me how adulterers make promises on top of promises in order to be taken back. Given their track record, they will not keep those promises. They know that what they are saying is a lie. They know that they have good intentions, although they will not keep what they are promising. What makes it worse is that the spouse who was cheated on takes them in. In some cases, they know that what they are being told is nothing but a pack of lies, yet they want something to give them hope. They want to believe that what they are being told “could” be true. They want to believe the fantasy that it “could” happen.
I myself would like to believe that my wife is giving me a brand new 2010 Maserati Tourismo Convertible. It would be nice, yet I know when I wake up tomorrow that the Maserati will not be in the driveway. The fantasy is exciting, but not real. Likewise, the lying infidel says whatever comes to mind, and the spouse wants to believe the fantasy since it gives them hope.
It is important in recovering from an affair to break the cycle of believing the lies. When you know it is a false promise, don’t accept it. When they promise the moon, they know that they can’t deliver it. On the other hand, when they are promising something that they can deliver. If they are promising something that is real, and have shown through their behavior that they mean business, they may be worth listening to.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey D. Murrah
