In the aftermath of an affair, there are many questions asked by each of the parties involved. The kind of question asked often reveals more about the person that they often want to admit. In posing the question, “Should I tell them the truth?” The person knows what the truth is. They also know the pain it may bring with it. It is also true that truthfulness is the best course of action. The question that needs to be considered is “How much should I tell them?” and “What is my reason for telling them this?”.
Honesty without love is cruelty, plain and simple. Going out and in the name of ‘truth’ hurting everyone is downright mean. With affairs, you need to consider telling them the things that will bring healing. Too many details about the affair often makes it more difficult to forgive what occurred.
Should I tell them the truth? Yes, with the understanding that you are not telling them to hurt them, or providing them with too many details. The youth of today talk about “TMI” (Too Much Information). It would behoove us to consider this idea in discussing affairs.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
