Living in a state of confusion without being able to focus or make decisions is torture. You find that it’s a struggle completing your daily routines. Even activities that should be bringing you joy are more like a chore.
Although you want a clear answer as to how long you will be like this, the harsh truth is that there is no one size fits all answer.
It typically takes at least 6 weeks to make adjustments to major changes in your life. When your dealing with something as life changing as an affair it can take longer.
It can take months. Rather than rushing yourself back to routines, you’ll need to give yourself time to heal. Rushing healing is never a good idea. You may find yourself appearing well, yet falling apart inside.
Your whole world has been rocked. After going through something so personal and life changing, it will take time. There will also be relapses. There will be good days and bad days.
When you embrace the face that time is needed in your healing it takes some pressures off. Time is needed for making emotional adjustments and physically recovering.
Even though you don’t see the damage, your body knows its there. It needs the time for your nervous system, digestive system and circulatory systems to settle down.
The time for healing might be scary in that you are not in control of all your emotions. The more you try to control them, the longer the healing will take. Instead of trying to control everything, you’ll need to allow yourself to be more human than a robot who executes commands without second thoughts.
When your healing takes longer, you may be experiencing Affair Trauma. The shock of an affair can be so extreme as to switch your body into crisis mode in such a way, you don’t calm down and recover on your own.
Although the human body has the ability to reset. There are times when events we face are so traumatic, it doesn’t reset on its own.
This is why I created a video on “Dealing with Affair Trauma”. It explains what trauma is, how your body got stuck along with ways of moving past the trauma.
Best Regards,
Jeff
