The struggle of thankfulness when it comes to Affairs

Although you can’t choose many of the things that happen to you regarding affairs, you can choose your attitude and response to them. You can choose to shut down, you can choose seeking revenge, or you can choose to find things to be thankful for.

Although it’s hard finding things to be thankful for in the midst of a crisis, it makes a HUGE difference when it comes to your attitude.

If you want your spouse back, do you think they wish returning to a bitter or vengeful person? Who in their right mind would want to be in the arms of someone hell-bent on revenge or with a face that looks like they just ate a dozen bitter lemons?

Sure, they may love you through the bitterness and revenge, but those cases are rare. Those attitudes are a definite turn off.

I know that they should return to you because it’s the right thing to do. There may be a few spouses who do that, yet most are not like that these days.

They don’t choose to do the right thing. (If they chose to do the right thing, they would not have had the affair in the first place.)

The search for what to be thankful for can be challenging. It requires you to change what you are looking at and how you think.

It forces you to consider the little things that come into your life. If forces you to re-examine what is important.

After finding out about an affair, you need to re-examine many aspects of your life and your marriage. It’s a struggle being thankful.

It’s a struggle to find things to be thankful for. It is a struggle to put the desire for revenge and hurt out of your mind, even for a little while.

The hurt and your reaction to it can become obsessive to the point of being all consuming.  The more you dwell on it, the more of your heart and mind it takes over.

That’s even greater reason for seeking out thankfulness. You need ways of redirecting your thoughts and focus. The search for what you can be thankful for will redirect your thoughts and focus.

You attitude will either draw people closer to you or repulse them. Hurt and pain are ways of keeping people away. They have a way of pushing people away, rather than attract others.

If you need help handling your reactions, the video, “Getting you past the Affair Crisis” guides you through your initial reactions and attitude. You can know ways of moving past the situation you are experiencing.

Best Regards,

Jeff

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