In perusing through the solicitations for affairs, a recent one caught my eye. Using the tagline “Act like an adult, have an affair!” they sought takers.
On looking at the tagline, I thought to myself, “Don’t you see the insanity of such a statement!”
The concept of ‘acting like an adult’ and ‘having an affair’ are diametrically opposed to each other. You can do one or the other, but not both.
By sending out contradictory messages, they confuse the whole issue of affairs. In the affair world, self-indulgence with infidelity is now defined as ‘adult’ behavior.
If that’s the definition of an adult, I’d hate to see how they define the self-indulgence or immaturity. Given that childhood is about a lack of self-control and narcissistic gratification, their view adulthood is only in the objects of that gratification.
The adultery community is based solely on chronological age, not emotional or relational maturity. There is no litmus test for adultery.
If being an adult is about self-indulgence, then what place is their for self-discipline?
Showing restraint regarding ones passions has historically been a sign of maturity. With this new definition of adulthood, there is not much hope for maturity.
It fosters an immature adulthood or to be more honest, a childhood that never ends. The adultery community is nothing more than the Toys-R-Us kids with new toys.
They not only do not want to grow up, they have not grown up and now they want sex toys. The latest trend is not just the toys, but the robots as well.
What hope is there for such an indulgent view of adulthood? Lovers are nothing more than toys to be used and disposed of.
Marriage is used for tax purposes only, and family becomes whoever you happen to be shacked up with at the moment.
The reality is that an adult stands by their commitments and promises. An adult you have the ability to delay or restrain self-indulgence.
You know how to say no to selfishness in order to stay in relationships. You know how to stay in connection with your spouse.
You know how to care for, love and commit. You know they relationship are more than just ‘getting it on’. This is not the adulthood of the adultery community.
There’s also the crazy-making contradiction used in “Be an adult-Have an Affair” . When you are given a contradictory statement, you mind often glitches momentarily.
Such contradictory statements are often used for triggering altered states of consciousness. This is an old ploy used by those who toy with hypnosis.
They know that when you mind glitches, you’re temporarily suggestible. The sequence of using contradictory messages to confuse the mind, followed up with a suggestion to do what they are manipulating you to do is the way this ploy works.
It’s nothing more than a mental manipulation.
The next time you see an ad promoting adultery, stop and think through what they are selling. Think through what they are really telling you. It’ll surprise you what you come up with.
If you’ve fallen for such ploys, you’re not the first one. On the surface, they make it sound good. They make affairs sound ‘fun’. In the event, you fell for it, there’s hope. The video “Help for the Cheater: Starting the Road to Recovery” guides you in getting out of the mess.
Just click the link and in moments your journey out starts. You’ll learn what needs doing and when to do it.
Best Regards,
Jeff
