A reader asked about how you can know when your wife is getting out of the ‘affair fog’. I think this is a great question.
Since I’ve addressed the affair fog in previous posts and in some of my e-books in terms of what it is and the dynamics behind it, this post focuses on being out of the fog.
When your wife is out of the fog, you’ll see improved mental clarity. She will be able to think through things and understand them. She’ll also be better at decision making, setting goals and working toward those goals.
She will have a stronger sense of self-identity and self-worth. She’ll feel more secure in herself as well as in the relationship.
She will be able to think and engage in a spontaneous manner. What was foggy or blurry thinking becomes clear.
This engagement will show signs of independent thinking rather than just reacting to the thoughts of others. It also indicates she’s thinking for herself.
You will also hear them singing again. Prior to the fog lifting, at most, you may hear some humming from them. When the fog is gone, you will hear them actually able to sing.
It is a good sign when you hear them singing actual words to songs. What is even better is when they make up their own lyrics to sing with the songs.
A wife who is out of the fog will also have a spring in her step. You will see her actually walking rather than mindlessly shuffling along. They will have more energy and less lethargy.
When you talk with them, they will show the ability to actually engage, which is in stark contrast to the ‘just following programming’ or tracking conversations that happens when they are in the fog.
With some wives, you may see their creativity being expressed once again. This may show up in a resumption of hobbies or things they enjoy. They will be enjoying life once again in spontaneous manner.
You will likely see them putting on make up and dressing in a way that is attractive rather than seductive. This includes more use of color and floral themes. Their make up will also not be so thick and harsh.
This will give you some things to look for as your wife comes out of her affair fog.
For more on the ‘Affair Fog’, the ebook, “Why He Cheats” goes into greater detail and what you can do about it in your marriage.
The Why He Cheats e-book is a guide to understanding the various motives for affairs, along with explaining the role of fantasy and the affair fog. If you wonder why your spouse is different and does what they didn’t do for you, this will help you understand that radical transformation.
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Best Regards,
Jeff
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