In cleaning up after an affair, there are many things that need doing. Once the lover is out of your life,you’ll need to clean up after them.
This includes cleaning your head, your heart and your home. The affair and lover are like a cancer in many ways. One of those ways how they spread into EVERYTHING. They get into parts of your life you thought were safe That means you need to clean everything.
In previous posts, I referred to this kind of cleaning as “Removing the ghosts”. When you clean the lover and the affair out, you’re removing all the items and energies associated with the affair.
Anything that can trigger positive associations with the affair or negativity about your marriage needs removing. It’s better removing all potential risks since your sensitivity to such matters can’t be trusted. If the lover touched it, held it or it is from them, you will need to either remove or clean it.
Everything we touch, wear, sit on and sleep on carries associations. Although those energies are not always seen they can be sensed and felt.
Often you sense them on a level outside your awareness. This means that when you experience old negative feelings but aren’t sure where they came from they were likely triggered by something that needed to be cleaned out. Your body and emotions remember, even when your mind does not.
The physical cleaning is often easier than the mental and emotional cleaning. For the mental and emotional cleaning, you will need to remove them from your head and your heart.
Good feelings, bad feelings, all of it.
When you do not clean them out, they live in your head and your heart rent free. The longer you allow them to stay, the more damage they will end up bringing into your life.
Although the lover is long gone from your life, when remnants of them remain, they continue inflicting damage, even if the lover has moved on to other things. Part of this is because the energies are not limited by time. The lover is long gone, yet the vibes they left behind continue working even years later.
You may also need to intervene spiritually by renouncing anything associated with the lover/affair. This includes closing anything left open.
The renouncing will need to be followed by rejection and confession. This will cut off any reactivation of the energies left behind by the lover. In some circles, this is known as aural cleaning.
To put it simply, “after the party, you need to clean up, and take out the trash.” Taking out the trash after an affair can be an on-going process. There are many articles on identifying the signs of affairs, confronting the cheater about the affair, and other associated topics.
One issue that is ALSO of extreme importance is the “clean up”. You will have to take out the trash, take out the trash, take out the trash.
For more help regarding recovery for the cheater, the video “Help for the Cheater: Starting the Road to Recovery” guides you through what you need to get started.
You’ve spent enough time allowing the lover to live in your heart and head rent free. Now is the time for making changes. Just click the link, fill out the form and in minutes, you’ll be part of the change.
Best Regards,
Jeff
