The first weekend of each month brings a radical change where I live. That first weekend is market day. People come from miles around for market day in search of curiosities and bargains.
The quiet hill country roads are choked with big city traffic. Most of the time we look for ways of avoiding the weekend influx. Although we try avoiding it, there are times, I’ve visited the market.
In strolling through the market stalls you find a wide array of kitschy little signs. One that always brings a smile to my face is the one announcing “Bless This Mess“.
It reminds me that real life is messy. As messy as it is, I love real life. Real life problems, dealing with emotions and facing the daily challenges is messy.
Real life doesn’t go as smooth as movies or television shows. The constant parade of the visitors in various states of dress echoes that same messy sentiment.
I am grateful for such reminders.
One of the problems with affairs is that they promise a relationship without the mess. As one billboard I saw in Las Vegas proclaimed, ‘Have a relationship on your terms‘.
Although affairs promise a relationship without messy emotions, they never deliver on that promise. Perhaps hookers do, but affairs don’t. In fact, affairs make bigger messes of your life than real life does.
The promise of pure sex without ‘ messy emotions’ appeals to some. The unsuspecting cheater is actually acting crazy at those times.
I say acting crazy since they seek gratification without consequences. They seek indulgence without mess.
Anytime you indulge without consequence, it goes against the laws of cause and effect and plants the seeds of instability. That kind of existence is unrealistic.
There are always consequences and messes. Affairs are always on someone else’s terms. The moment you fall into an affair, you are no longer in control or dictating terms.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
