There is a curious proverb: “No pain, no gain“. It says you should at least feel some level of discomfort to see any change.
During my teen years, I found myself receiving my share of traffic tickets for various traffic offenses. After receiving several, the decision was made between a lawyer and my father that I needed to learn a lesson.
To this day, I don’t know if it was my father’s idea or his lawyer’s idea that was behind that lesson. What they decided was for me to stay in Pasadena traffic court all day and sweat out what may happen.
They kept the fact that my offense was dismissed from me in order to ‘teach’ me a lesson. So, for several hours, I sat nervously in the court room waiting for my name to be called. I suppose they were entertained by the idea, but I wasn’t.
The episode illustrates the principle of “Prices teach us“. When you pay the price for something, it’s part of your education. In my case, I paid the price of sitting in traffic court all day.
Prices are for more things that merely stating value. They also teach us that there are consequences to actions, along with showing you where you are behaving in an unhealthy manner.
When your spouse cheats, it’s important for them to experience the price of consequences. Those consequences are a way of teaching them things. The exceptions are life threatening situations and when the consequences hurt your family.
If your situation is not one of the exceptions, consider the benefit of allowing the “The price of pain teaches them” some important lessons. When you do allow the price of pain to teach, it’s important accepting that pain is your friend.
The simple truth is “Prices teach us”. Those things we pay prices for, teach you lessons.
This applies to the proverb “no pain no gain.” It applies because this proverb acknowledges that individuals sometimes learn things through painful lessons, and paying the price is part of learning them.
Many people only change their ways when they encounter pain. Although you don’t want them to hurt, there are some cheaters that only change when in pain, especially when it comes to affair relapse.
I cover other important points in the video “Preventing Affair Relapse”. The more you know about what it takes for a good relapse prevention plan, the greater your chances of moving past the affair.
You’ll also want to know about what dangers lie ahead, rather than being caught off guard by games cheaters play regarding relapse. Affair relapse impacts both of you, and it’ll take both of you in moving past it.
Along the way, there will be prices to be paid and lessons learned. You can know what kind of challenges these are and prepare yourself now with the video.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
