This morning another article came out with the latest proclamation from an affair expert on the five types of affairs. The headline advertises something along the lines of “The five types of affairs and two don’t involve another person“.
What made this one different was that they mentioned ‘the danger of sliding into the DM’s of one’s ex’. Relationships with former lovers and exes is always a potential affair in the making.
Sliding into the DM’s refers to the temptation of direct messaging your ex or former lovers. There is also the risk of facebook stalking them or googling them. Each contact with them carries risks.
(Is it co-incidence that DM is also a popular acronym for ‘dungeon master’?)
When it comes to visiting disease infested areas, you see the risk and avoid the dangers. Even the government issues warnings about traveling to disease prone areas.
Although there are plenty of warnings about physical diseases, they don’t exist when it comes to exes and lovers. Articles like the one referenced alert you to these relationship dangers and more specifically, the article mentions the danger of direct messaging.
Even though you may tell yourself that one message, text or snapchat won’t hurt, they do. These channels of contact seem innocuous, but they aren’t.
Even when the message is sent to a bot, there’s potential danger. Developing emotional attachments to a bot take affections away from you.
When you live in a culture where people develop attachments to trees and marry them, inanimate things like bots are threats as well. Whatever or whoever you send inappropriate messages to poses a threat.
The author is considered a ‘dating and relationship expert’. When I see someone is a ‘dating’ expert, it tells me that they know about what it takes for starting relationships.
Although the skills you need in starting a relationship overlap with what you need in keeping them, they don’t totally line up. In this case, the author is spot on when it comes to seeing potential dangers.
Messaging and other ways of contacting others are tools for starting relationships, which is what makes them threats to your marriage. They are back doors to affairs.
If you message, text or send photos, consider sending any copies to your spouse. If you can’t send them to your spouse as well, what you’re sending puts you at risk.
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Best Regards,
Jeff
