When an uninvited guest arrives at my house, I feel intruded upon. They may behave themselves, yet their presence leaves me feeling out of sorts.
The most recent time I felt this was at a holiday gathering. While walking down the hallway, a strange man suddenly greeted me. His being there caught me off guard.
Being a good host, I greeted him with a smile, yet in my mind I wondered “Who is he and how did he get here?” Having a stranger wandering through my home bothers me.
I find myself watching him closer than other guests. At any given moment I keep an awareness of his location and associations.
I don’t know who they are, or their intentions or anything about them. Uninvited guests are unsettling for me.
There’s something unsettling about uninvited guests, especially when they’re the lover. Suddenly they barge into your life or into your home.
In your case, you wonder what is their business and what brought them into your life. The cheater may deny knowing anything or being surprised themselves.
Truth be known, the affair is what invited them into your life. Lovers are always invited by someone at some level, whether intentional or unintentional.
Lovers don’t go knocking on doors looking for someone to take them in. Instead they go where they’re invited. Somewhere someone put out a welcome mat for them to intrude.
By the time they show up, things are already out of control. The threat is real at that point.
When the uninvited lover shows up, it’s a red flag warning sign that your marriage is in danger. You may initially freeze, which is part of the initial shock.
When that happens, it’s not time for emotional withdrawal. It’s time for action. Choosing to play nice or do nothing only encourages them into further encroachments.
It’s time for action. It’s time for showing them the door and saving your marriage. This is a time for setting up boundaries, taking action and protecting yourself from the threat.
At the Restored Lifestyle site, you’d have a list of actions needed for times like this. Rather than be caught off guard when the uninvited visitor arrives, you can know what to do and spring into action.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
