At some point in affair recovery you’ll face the challenge of getting honest about your emotions. You may be one of those who put them off or ran from them.
Facing your emotions about the affair and how it impacts you seems ominous. Like black clouds on the horizon ahead of major weather changes.
Putting off dealing with them only makes things worse. Your own fear of yourself or the reactions of others is the real threat. Fear amounts to zapping the situations with radioactive unnatural growth rays.
Like a freakish super villain, the fear-enhanced emotions grow to unnatural dimensions. You run, they grow. The faster you run, the greater they become. Your own fears are feeding them.
One self-improvement expert states “When you don’t feel your emotions, they become bigger than you”. His statement accurately describes the challenge you’re encountering.
I’ve found that it’s fear that keeps you from facing your emotions. Fear is what allows the emotions to grow to the point that they take over your life.
Fear turns your emotions into inner monsters. Those monsters which were once manageable turn into demons that torment you day and night.
Even when the emotions turn into monsters, some of you continue feeding them with more fear until they become chronic conditions and ruin your health in some way.
I want you to stop running and take action. When you get honest with yourself about those emotions, you start taming them rather than them bullying you.
The challenge then is whether or not you are ready to stop being the victim of emotional bullying. These days being a victim is glorified. There are even signs to look for indicating you are ‘playing the victim‘.
There are others who patronize and support you for running from your emotions. These are the ‘misery loves company’ crowd. They will give you an insincere hug and comfort you for a few idle hours.
You’ll discover that they just occupy your time for a while before offering you up to the monster again. It’s tragic, but all too common.
Recovering from the affair requires more that coddling. It requires action. You’re going to have to make some changes, including facing what you’ve been running from.
This is where the video “Overcoming the Affair Crisis” comes in. It starts you on the road to recovery with getting honest and facing those fears. Order your copy today and start a journey toward wellness.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
