Anytime I hear someone talk about how traditional marriage and values are part of an outmoded morality and outdated ways, I contrast that with comments about about hospitals and retirement homes.
When young and trying to be hip, it may be fashionable to hold such ideas about outmoded ways. You view such ideas differently when you’re old and looking at assisted living situations.
Such ideas sound liberating and progressive. Those ideas make for poor companions when you are going into the sunset years of your life.
It’s during those times you see the importance of marriage and family. You may have fought with your family, yet when you’re needing comfort, they provide something no one else can.
It’s at that time when you find out whether or not your relationships and marriage were worth saving.
It’s when you’re not functioning like you used to that you view the disagreements and arguments as not so important any more. The problem is that at those times, the chickens come home to roost.
The values and choices you live by have consequences. It’s tragic when the elderly live their final years in loneliness and isolation as the consequence of having pushed their spouse and family away.
The problem is that when you’re young you don’t see the long term impact of holding grudges, making a big deal about little things and insisting that your way of seeing and doing things is the only right way. Pride has a way of pushing other people out of your life.
I’ve seen wives hate their cheating husband, refusing to forgive, until their dying day. That is far different from a husband surrounded by a loving family who’ve overcome countless obstacles out of love.
Your marriage and family relationships are worth saving, even though others consider them relics from outmoded morality. No one wants conflict, yet finding ways of resolving them and restoring trust is part of living life on life’s terms.
Your elderly years don’t have to be filled with regrets and resentments. You can instead start taking steps in healing those relationships. In the video, “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, tear down the walls and remove the roadblocks” you’ll find the tools needed in moving past the pain.
You don’t have to continue your life surrounded by resentments and regrets.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
