Although I haven’t seen any official statistics on the subject, one of the trends I’ve seen in looking at affairs is that there are links between medical conditions and affairs. As deplorable as it sounds, when you experience a medical condition, be it a disease, accident or even pregnancy, there are some spouses who give into temptations for an affair.
They view your condition as a window of opportunity for them to have an affair. They may go so far as to consider it a medical ‘hall pass’.
Rather that provide you with care and remain loyal, they instead indulge themselves in gratifying their sexual desires. In some cases, you may have even given them a hall pass for doing so.
Affairs under such conditions happen more often than I’d like. Although common sense says stay with your spouse, they’re instead listening to something else whispering in their ears.
I put these affairs in the same mental category of taking advantage of the handicapped. Those indulging in such affairs are viewing their needs ahead of their commitment to you.
Since my daughter in law recently gave birth to my first grand-daughter, I have little tolerance for husbands cheating on pregnant wives. I was reminded of the moodiness, yet that makes for a weak excuse for infidelity.
When a reader brought up her being pregnant and her husband cheating on her, the recent events hit a raw nerve with me.
A common chorus heard in these situations is “but I have needs“. I realize you have needs. When there are medical conditions, it puts everyone in a bind. At those moments sacrifices are required in order to deal with out of the ordinary circumstances.
These circumstances put each of you in unusual binds. There are no easy ways out of such situations. Each of you are stressed along with faced with your go-to stress relief being blocked.
The affair is often packaged as a way of dealing with their stress. That’s just an excuse.
Such affairs hurt marriages and undermine their foundations. These kinds of affairs leave serious scars on your souls.
This is where the video program Affair Recovery Workshop comes in. It helps move your relationship back toward health. It guides the two of your through the challenging talks and honesty needed as part of recovery from what you’ve gone through.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
