At one time, I attempted mastering golf, in the end, I didn’t. My best friend at the time tried teaching me about golf swings. Although I’ve forgotten much of what I was taught, one item that stays with me is the importance of ‘follow through’.
Hitting the ball without follow through is disastrous. Following through with your swing is essential in golfing. I’ve found the lesson on follow through extremely helpful in other areas as well.
Not following through means your swing isn’t completed. The incomplete swing changes where the ball goes, and removes the control I once had over it.
When it comes to ending an affair not following through also means that the affair isn’t completed. All you’ve done is left the task half-done.
The first part of ending the affair is ending it. If you haven’t taken that step, then the affair is still going strong.
Ending it includes stop seeing AND stop communicating, daydreaming, fantasizing, etc. The connection between lover and cheater is totally severed.
There are also some cheaters who have the distinction of not even following through on starting the affair either. They obsess with a lover, and are driven by them, yet never even have relations with them.
Many emotional affairs fall into this category. Make no mistake, they still damage your marriage. They do all the damage of an affair, with the illusion of deniability.
The second part of ending the affair consists of ‘killing the feelings’ associated with the affair. This is necessary for both the emotional affairs and physical affairs. Those feelings must die in order for recovery to move on from the affair.
If you’re one of those who only go through the motions of ending the affair, yet never kill the feelings, you’re not following through. The affair isn’t really over for you. It’s continuing on in your heart and head.
As long as the affair continues stirring passionate feelings in you, it’s a threat to your marriage. You need strong follow through in getting the task completed.
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Imagine being able to enjoy your spouse without thinking about someone else.
Consider the peace of mind that comes with actually being with your spouse rather than feeling torn between them and your other fantasies.
Follow through is key in achieving success.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
