Although there have been movies about infidelity and baseball, I never considered that there may be truth to them. Baseball hits home to me since an MLB pitcher moved in down the street from me. His presence has made an impact.
Now all the young kids are playing baseball in the street throughout the spring and summer. If not playing baseball, they’re riding their bikes with gloves and bat in hand.
His moving here inspired me to increase my awareness of baseball and follow the teams. It came as a shock when I read that one of his former teammates was embroiled in an affair scandal.
The MLB pitcher Ben Zobrist is now taking a former pastor to court for cheating with his wife. When your wife cheats, things are bad enough. When she cheats with your pastor that you’ve been going to for marriage counseling, it’s devastating. The very person who is supposedly helping you is instead contributing to the problem. It’s a betrayal on top of betrayal.
In connecting the dots, the boundaries blurred between the pastor/counselor and the couple. There were several episodes where the relationship lines grew fuzzy. Fuzzy relationship lines create problems.
Even when you’re a celebrity, you’re vulnerable to betrayal. His status didn’t protect him from being betrayed by someone he trusted.
In this case, it created huge problems for everyone involved. It’s my hope that they recover from this tragic incident.
It also shows me that pastors, no matter how well-intentioned are not beyond having an affair. In the counseling field, we are warned about dual relationships, which leads to fuzzy lines.
What I do know is that everyone involved has suffered some form of loss. It ended up hurting everyone.
Moving past losses like that is challenging. Although it’s challenging, it can be done. Those scars need healing and courtroom settlements aren’t going to do it.
Judges and courts only deal with punishments. They provide compensation, but not healing. Healing from such an episode requires resolving the traumas involved.
They’ll need conversations about what happened and all the pain it brought. It’s never easy listening to someone’s pain, but its necessary.
Once those conversations happen, the next step is dealing with it. After the issues are laid out on the table, you’ve got to do something with them. This is where recovering from Affair Trauma comes in.
In the video Overcoming Affair Trauma, I share with you ways of healing those scars and moving past the trauma. The hurt won’t go away on its own. You need to know ways of dealing with it and putting it behind you.
This video guides you through that part of the healing journey.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
