Category: Waking up and confronting the cheater
Infidelity: Dealing with the lie “I didn’t tell you because I didn’t want to hurt you”
Cheating: I didn’t want to hurt you One of the more infuriating statements a cheater makes is that they did not tell you about what they did because “I
Infidelity: Spying on Your Spouse
Infidelity: Considering the spying option When signs of infidelity begin showing up, you begin considering what to do. One option that some spouses consider is spying or hiring a
Natural Selection and Affairs
In working with affairs, I hear many excuses for cheating. You have likely heard many excuses yourself. One of the surprising ones I heard recently was that it was
Affair Cons and Blackmail
Although you may think that con games (as in confidence games) are a relic of old movies and old novels, you would be mistaken. Con-games are alive and well
But I am the victim here!
What about the cheaters who say that they are victims? Some cheaters are victims, some just use ‘victimhood’ as an easy out. I know from my own life how
Getting attention rather than revenge
The challenge you may face when getting the cheaters attention is knowing the difference between getting their attention and getting revenge. The difference between the two is your attitude.
Waking up the cheater
Cheaters are often in a “mental fog”. You can call it La-La Land, the affair fog, being in ‘robot mode’ or living in another world. This is one of
When oral sex is not sex.
When the cheater proclaims that oral sex is not sex (or any other type of sex is not sex), you have a big problem. When that happens, they have
Handling the hurt of a venturing spouse
When your spouse cheats, you will be hit with many emotions. Some of you have described it as an emotional tidal wave that hits and overwhelms you. The stormy
Confronting the robot
In the aftermath of D-Day (day of discovering of the affair), there are discussions of many topics. Some of these discussions turn into arguments and fights. In the midst
