When a husband or wife leaves the home, it is never a good sign. Leaving the home is often a signal that there are serious problems and that the relationship as you knew it is over. When a husband leaves the home, there is often more hope for the relationship than when the wife leaves the home. In both cases, the amount of hope is small. The leaving from the home often occurs on an emotional level before it happens physically. The time to take action is when your spouse begins pulling away. There is more hope of making changes then as compared with when they have already left the home.
A factor to consider is the family history of this happening. If they come from a long line of such behavior the hopes of working through things is smaller. If they have a history of serial relationships, it is unlikely that they will come back. The time to take action is when they begin pulling away. After they have made the choice to leave, they are often less responsive to repairing the marriage. It does not automatically mean that everything is over. It does mean that you will need to do more than just going through the motions. You will need to make some major improvements. If the bonding is still intact, you can, with effort make some of the necessary changes. If the bonding has been ruptured, then hope is dim. When they tell you “Good-by my lover” and the bonds are broken, you have some major problems. Anytime there is an affair, the affair itself is looking to meet needs outside of the marriage. The affair is testimony to your spouse pulling away emotionally. You need to take action now, rather than assume that time alone will heal all the wounds.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
