When you live in a small town, dealing with cheating is more intense than in a large city. Cities provide places to hide, places to get away from the scrutiny and gossip. In a small town, you can’t run away so easily.
You can move to a new neighborhood to get away, but it’s only temporary. In a small town, everyone knows what you and your spouse have been up to. You can’t escape the prying eyes and the pressure.
The weird paradox is that that same network kept the secret before the affair was discovered and now they put pressure on you and your spouse.
Logic would seem that in a small town you would find out about the affair sooner. That’s not always the case. There are times that small towns keep secrets.
They keep secrets along with having long memories. In a city you can move to an area where there are few if any reminders of the affair. In a small town, the reminders are everywhere.
Much like the neighborhood affair, the small town affair often rubs your nose in what the cheater has done. The whole community smells of the affair.
The affair may even be used as leverage when politics enter the picture. It is as if the affair turns into a weapon in a small town. When the affair is ‘weaponized’ it is devastating.
The devastation from an affair is always hard to face. Since a small town is so…small, the devastation often infects all your surroundings.
It’s not that it is more devastating than an affair in the big city, it is just that since the town in small, you come face to face with the reality of the effects of the affair.
Those same effects are in the big city, you just don’t notice them as easily. Those same effects are more intensified.
If you are facing such an affair, you’ll want help sooner rather than later. The Affair Recovery Workshop gives you the tools you need for repairing your marriage without the prying eyes of the neighbors. You and your spouse can work on your marriage in the privacy of your own home.
Best Regards,
Jeff
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