On one of my hubs I recently had to address the question posed by a cheating wife of “Is it normal that he does not want to talk to me?” The question occurs more often than I would like to think about. When a wife cheats, it often cuts deep. It hurts like hell. The pain of her betrayal can be paralyzing to some of you. Dealing with such a deep pain takes time. When you have built a life with your wife, nourished her, cared for her, and she was the joy of your life, finding out she cheated on you literally turns your world inside out. Having your world turned around like that is hard to deal with.
The person who you trusted most has let you down. It leaves you alone to face the pain. These days, many of you have fewer friends than previous generations. When your wife cheats, it is not just the loss of what you had with your wife, it is the loss of a bridge with the world. It is a loss of connection. She who knows you best has hurt you. Dealing with that kind of hurt is hard. Many husbands do not talk about such hurts for a while. They often do not know how to talk about such a deep hurt. Rather than working through such hurts, you may find that you would rather cut off any connection with the pain.
It is worth working through. It may require you to swallow some pride and let go of anger, but it is worth it. If you are the cheating wife, this will give you some idea what you are faced with. It will let you know where to begin.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
