As you work through the affair, there will be times that you have angry, if not violent thoughts. You may try to dismiss them as “that is NOT me!’. The reality is that they are your thoughts. You have been hurt. When you are hurt, it is natural to want to hurt back. Those desires to ‘hurt them back’ may show up in the form of violent thoughts. It is important for you to realize that it is your bodies way to telling you something. Those thoughts are not messages from on high for you to ‘show them’ or ‘hurt them’. They may deserve it, yet you do not want to risk jail time or be on the run for the rest of your life. The penalties for acting on those violent thoughts are not worth it.
Laws and culture have changes. The revenge slayings are not tolerated anymore, neither are the torture episodes. You will have to find another outlet for the pain and hurt. Those thoughts will pass when you let them. Like any hurt, if you keep feeding the grudge it will grow larger and hang around your heart.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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God is perfect….His ultimate way of dealing with us is perfect. His dealing with evil is PERFECT …why interfere and do an inferior job of it!
He has disclosed to us all that we need for life and godliness from His Word.
He told us that “in this world we would have tribulation, but be of good cheer I have overcome the world’
In all of the wisdom written in the Bible…the one about waiting upon HIM is crucial for us to practice because as you have pointed out …CHANGE is what grace makes available . Justice is important, but it is only JUST if it is within the boundaries of law….
Man’s laws are not perfect and are not always timely as we might like but Mercy allows for time to repent.
God actually calls for those who love Him to pray for those who despitefully use us and to do good to those who do us wrong ….perhaps it is because in time they may turn from evil and become part of the solution instead of part of the problem.
Patience grows as we consider how nothing sown does not return a crop of some kind….and even in our pain what we SOW should bring some cautionary consideration …for it WILL reap a crop …at some point.
Man’s justice may fall short but God’s is actually PAST TENSE…we may learn what the end of all sinful choices are and hopefully avoid becoming actively involved with those things.
Making right choices as defined by GOD is a smart and wise way to go ….Light eventually exposes all that is dark ..and hopefully continuing in following the truth will be far more satisfying and profitable in the end.
I would rather continue in my walk than to fall into the same trap that my husband has …and hopefully if I continue to do what I hear the Lord say in his testimony of the word I will see my husband desire to eat of the same bread that came down from heaven
I don’t know what better way to have a life that is without regret on my part anyway .
Jam 1:4 But let patience have [her] perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.
There is always time to do what is right but regret and wrong bring a lot more pain and what is done cannot always be undone.
Sort of why wise counsel is to pause for the cause…to take time to think through and count the cost.
Passion may be replaced with COM passion if one waits a bit and cools down.
I am seeing that no one changes instantly from a life of wrong choices and sinful habits but they have lived in a most self destructive way….adding more destruction on top of it and doing something that only makes me no more wise is not a solution I would choose.
It is hard when your heart is hurting and your humiliation and anger about such unreasonable behavior crosses your most intimate path ..but it is more dangerous for those who choose to do evil than those who suffer from it …
My mother’s words echo ..”Rise above it …don’t stoop to their level’
Zaza,
You make some good points. Rising above the situation and seeing it from God’s perspective is always preferred. Although it is preferred, many are in their pain to such a degree that they can not see any way out or rise above their circumstances. Instead they find themselves struggling with unwanted thoughts and passionate feelings.