First I want to wish each of you a Merry Christmas. This time of year has its emotional ups and downs. It’s also a time of reflection. With that in mind, I have some relationship advice for Mrs. Santa.
Mrs. Claus,
There are some behaviors in your husband that I feel need to be brought to your attention. As a counselor I see many red flags that concern me.
First, his voyeuristic tendencies of looking in on people when they are sleeping borders on being a fetish. He obsesses over people and their behavior, to the point of keeping lists. When people keep lists of what they define as good and bad behavior, then watch them as they sleep, it’s bothersome and may underlie some more serious problems.
Second, his attention seeking lifestyle of wearing a red suit, driving fast and frequent international travel raise another red flag. That kind of attention seeking lifestyle is often seen among narcissists. It wouldn’t surprise me if he wants to be the center of attention and have homes filled with pictures and images of himself. With such a high need for attention and high risk lifestyle habits, it may only be a matter of time before he’s at risk for an affair or worse.
There have also been rumors that as he goes driving around, he keeps looking for Ho’s, actually calling out to them. HO-HO-HO! Cruising for Ho’s is definitely a concern.
Third, he has unhealthy addictions to cookies, milk and tobacco. He tends to go overboard when he indulges in these substances, which suggests a lack of self-control. Foods can be like drugs, with the substances in them triggering receptors in his brain. There is a potential danger that with that kind of weak self-control that his impulsivity may spread to other areas of his life as well. What it amounts to is that he is often high on stimulants as he goes driving around at breakneck speeds.
Fast sleighs, being high on stimulants, having a high need for attention coupled with his voyeuristic tendencies and obsessive behaviors puts him at high risk for relationship problems.
My advice for you Mrs. Claus is to purchase a copy of the Affair Recovery Workshop
. Even if he is not having an affair, which is unlikely, he is definitely at risk for developing one. It may also help with the potential identity issues you have as being seen as Mrs. Claus or Mrs. Santa, since you have lost your own sense of individuality and now have a dangerous codependent relationship with Santa.
I hope that you enjoy the holidays.
Best Regards,
Jeff
