The other day I mentioned the 50th anniversary of the moon landing. The anniversary reminds me of the sacrifice made by many families in making it possible.
Anytime there was a space mission, countless families were without a parent or spouse for days on end. During missions, those involved found themselves on-duty around the clock.
It wasn’t just the astronauts. The people manning mission control and flight operations were on-duty while the mission was underway.
In those days, there were no cell phones to stay connected. It was radio silence.
Those watching from their television set only saw portions of the missions. They had no idea what was going on behind the scenes in making those accomplishments possible.
Some military and first responder families understand the unique challenges faced during missions. There know the long hours when they out of contact with their loved ones.
The strain of those long hours out of contact makes your marriage vulnerable. Some spouses find those times impossible to endure.
Many times those long hours are worsened by the lack of contact. When spouses are silent during such times, your mind starts creating noise. Although you try keeping it positive, those negative noises start triggering fears.
When you’re in a profession with long hours, communication becomes not only important, it becomes essential. You still need that sense of connection with each other.
Although one spouse may be okay with it, that doesn’t mean both of you are. Likewise, refusing discussions about the affair create a similar radio silence, where one spouse is left to their imagination.
The longer the two of you go without talking the worse the tension grows. After an affair, staying silent doesn’t make things better. It does just the opposite. It creates more tension and fears.
This is where the “30 Days to a Better Marriage” program helps. It guides you through a daily series in reconnecting with each other. It opens up those lines of communication.
It gives you ways of re-connecting and staying connected with each other.
There are times telling them “I love you” isn’t enough. They need to know what’s in your heart as well, this is where the program can help your marriage.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
