One some days, reading the latest news about affair research is akin to the days when I looked forward to the reading the funnies. I’d find the news entertaining and laughable if so many marriages didn’t take their findings seriously.
Instead of laughing, I find myself almost choking on my coffee on reading the latest findings about why people cheat. One survey found that the main reason wives cheat is ‘because they can’.
Another study from the University of Missouri found that female infidelity was due to something they call ‘the phase’. What is “The Phase” I asked on reading it. Is that like menopause or some kind of new age jargon?
When I consider the source of the research and how ‘victimhood’ is a virtue at that school, it makes sense that students would find cheaters as victims of something. I’ve often said that you find what you’re looking for.
The sad part is that these researchers believe what they’re putting out. Somehow taking all the moral sting out of cheating makes infidelity understandable to the modern world.
I was raised during a time when cheating was considered sinful rather than being a ‘phase’ people go through.
The whole idea that people cheat because they can is also an avoidance of moral accountability. When people do things ‘because they can’, it sounds more sociopathic than opportunistic.
Hearing these weird excuses for affairs reminds me of a lecture by one of my anthropology professors named Mike Reese where he pointed out “In today’s culture everyone wants to be a victim”. I suppose the cheating wives will claim to be a victim of ‘the phase’ rather than face up to how they choose to step out on their husbands.
It’s no wonder you find yourself confused at times, wondering who or what to believe when it comes to infidelity. Even if infidelity was due to opportunities or ‘the phase’, the cheaters need accountability when it comes to affair recovery.
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Best Regards,
Jeff
