Category: Recovery and Self-Care
“You need to be more open minded!”
There is an old joke, “Why not legalize everything, and then there would be no crime!” The sentiment of that joke is often heard among cheaters and those who
Agreement versus Understanding
Understanding your spouse is not the same thing as agreeing with them. In working through the cheating, you will have to keep understanding and agreement separate. Confusing these two
Wrestling with fear
Fear makes affairs worse than they are. When you imagine events taking place, along with what people feel and think, it is an overwhelming task. Your own emotions are
Fires and Common Sense
When you encounter someone who has experienced a severe burn, the first thing you do is to separate them from the source of the burn. It is only after
To document or not document?
The question arises as to whether or not you need to document all the interactions between you and your spouse when cheating is going on. When you start documenting,
How Affairs effect your health
Have you ever considered how affairs effect your health? In previous posts I have shared with you how an affair dramatically increases your chances of being a homicide statistic.
Does Every Man have the desire to cheat?
When you are hurting, it is tempting to pain all men or all women with a broad brush. In your anger and frustration, you may say that all men
Obsessive Thoughts and Affairs
Wow, this is my 1,000th post to the blog. It has been an amazing time. The number of people helped has astounded me. I wanted to let you know
Saying good-bye to the lover
It would be nice if you could say good-bye once and be done with everything. All relations and connections severed with one good-bye. The reality is that the good-bye
Getting rid of the secrets
Undoing the mess of your spouse’s cheating is unpleasant task. The task is part sewage work, part carrion removal and part rock crushing. While carrying out this unpleasant task,
