Archive for April, 2008

Resentment is a strong emotion. Since it is so strong it is important that you have a clear idea what you are experiencing.  When experiencing resentment, you may find yourself oblivious to the opinions and comments of others. It brings with it a kind of single-mindedness that allows you to block things out. True resentment […]

A woman in Zimbabwe has filed a 400 billion dollar lawsuit  against her sister. She claims here adulterous relationship with her sister led to her losing her spouse. If people realized the potential damage of adultery there would be fewer episodes of infidelity. Infidelity has an emotional, financial, relational, moral and spiritual price tag that […]

The human mind amazes me with all the ways it manages to twist and turn information, especially regarding affairs. When the will is set on having the affair, the mind will manufacture all kinds of rationalizations and excuses to make it sound acceptable. This same mindset of twisting information and looking for loopholes will also […]

A recent story in the news about the DC madam shows how messed up people can actually be. One of the madam’s call girls was also a navy officer. Lt. Commander Rebecca Dickinson had taught at the naval academy as well. The official navy report has her as heading up the food services, although in […]

There are a lot of things that you can do in order to restore your marriage and rebuild the foundation of your life together. These steps are simple enough to follow if you are committed. But if you are not, then probably, you should be taking a look at your heart and ask yourself how […]

Surviving an affair is not a solo effort. It is best done together with your spouse, especially, if you have reaffirmed your love for each other. There are several steps you can follow to mend your marriage after an affair.
 
1.                  You need to make sure that the affair is truly over. Infidelity, in itself, […]

Several years ago, Terrence Real published the book, I Don’t Want to Talk About It. Although the book focuses on men dealing with depression, its contents have a major impact on couples struggling with intimacy. Since, some affairs are about misplaced attempts to attain intimacy. If you are one of those whose infidelity experience seemed […]

70-year old Caterina Annarumma made an astonishing disclosure to a daughter who finally found her. She revealed to her that she had had 13 children from an affair and had sold or given them up for adoption. Although she finally married her paramour, the children were to ones who suffered as a result of the […]

In AA, there is a saying that “If you keep doing what you have always been doing, you will keep getting what you have always got”. This statement has applications regarding affairs. When you wait too long before dealing with an affair after it has been discovered, you may find yourself repeating the mistakes that […]

Affairs are confusing. What you can imagine is very different from what you feel. Each of these is dramatically different from what your are told about them. At times you may feel like an alien living in three or more different worlds at the same time. The conflicting stories, feelings, advice and facts create a […]