Archive for August, 2008

In the aftermath of an affair, people do not think clearly. The difficulty thinking makes it especially challenging to identify key decision points.  One of those is “When should I leave?” If your physical safety is in danger, you need to leave. Although that seems simple, when a person has been traumatized, they do not […]

One of the things I remember about the old television show, Mission:Impossible was how the message would self-destruct. I was reminded of this in dealing with some affair situations. Many times, after finding out about affairs, spouses will self-destruct on mental and emotional levels. This is often accomplished with the mantra “Why did he/she….?” They […]

This past weekend, I attended a wedding. It was the first one I had attended in several years. While listening to the ceremony, it struck me that many times couples forget what they promised on their wedding day. They forget the commitments made on their wedding day. Terms like “love, honor, cherish, loyal, obey” are […]

The Emotions of Your Spouse while Rebuilding Your Marriage
After the discovery of the affair, you and your spouse are still reeling from the effects of that traumatic experience. As such, it would be necessary to start talking about your situation and trying to minimize the damage to your marriage.
It’s not impossible to […]

The John Edwards affair is worth noting in terms of understanding affairs. It is different that many of the celebrity affairs in how it was handled and what he is saying. It provides some clues as to common patterns in how infidels think and behave. He admits that he started believing he was special, Edwards […]

Although it is the 21st century the morals of some people are primitive. As strange as it sounds, there are some adults who still “don’t get it”. These are the ones who have a tribal/communal moral code. They see nothing wrong with flaunting their love in front of your children, they see nothing wrong with […]

Bringing Back the Lost Passion in Your Marriage
People who engage in an affair often do so out of a misplaced longing for passion. The problem is, they pursue it outside of their marriage. When they do, they hurt themselves and their spouses who love them deeply. What they do not realize is that […]

Turning Your Rage and Anger into Passion for Your Marriage
 
You’re angry. Bitter. Outraged!
 
And that is but normal for a person who has gone through the horrors of an affair. You feel the betrayal of your spouse and the way that your marriage vows were disregarded. But once the affair is over and you […]

Bring Back the Passion to Your Marriage after an Affair
 
One thing that would suffer during an affair is the passion in marriage. Slowly, the passion evaporates. You and your spouse just take each other for granted. Life goes on and then poof!
 
An affair happens, leaving you both in shock and your marriage in […]