Archive for the Understanding Affairs
Although it is the 21st century the morals of some people are primitive. As strange as it sounds, there are some adults who still “don’t get it”. These are the ones who have a tribal/communal moral code. They see nothing wrong with flaunting their love in front of your children, they see nothing wrong with […]
Cell phones have become the number one way of catching infidelity in Britain. I suspect that is the case in the United States as well, although I have not seen the latest numbers on that issue. I was reminded of this when I received an inquiry call from a man who had concerns about his […]
Affairs often involve a lack of self control. People give into urges or fantasies that they have been keeping active in their minds. The whole affair situation worsens when a spouse attempts diminishing what happened with the excuse that they were drunk (or stoned). Such an admission suggests that there are substance abuse problems in […]
Although high drama showdowns make for entertainment at the movies, such episodes are not good for relationships. Even though we want a one time episode to “get it all out”, life does not work that way. If you are expecting to ‘fix’ everything with one meeting or one talk with your spouse, it is unlikely […]
When a husband or wife leaves the home, it is never a good sign. Leaving the home is often a signal that there are serious problems and that the relationship as you knew it is over. When a husband leaves the home, there is often more hope for the relationship than when the wife leaves […]
 Although it is offered as an excuse, the saying “Affairs just happen” is a misnomer. Many times the couple has communication or intimacy problems, and the opportunity arises for things to happen. Another scenario is when a partners uses drugs or alcohol. In such cases, the drug or alcohol abuse had been going on prior […]
Automobiles often have lights on the dashboard that alert you to malfunctions going on with the vehicle. These lights are often termed “idiot lights” by those who work on cars. The lights often go on when things are ‘bad’. Had the early warning signs been attended to, the problem would have been fixed before it […]
This is one of the more difficult questions that arise in the course of dealing with affairs. This question is one that challenges your commitment to your spouse, your values and yourself. Many people look for a skeleton key that unlocks all the locks and answers all the questions. There is no one size fits […]
When it comes to affairs, there is often a great deal of debate about what actions constitute and affair. Discussions about that are often heated. Another area needing attention is where do you draw the line in terms of how much you are willing to put up with? Knowing this will help you know at […]
Some spouses deny that their actions were improper. They dismiss it with, “I did nothing wrong” or “Nothing happened”. All that such statements are communicating is that they did not get laid. Such statements are often made to minimize what they did or to calm down the resolute spouse. When such statements are made, they […]
