Adultery and divorce are big business. Anytime a big business profits from a behavior, they’ll continue promoting it.
Even when the behavior is immoral or illegal, when there’s money to be made, there will be those promoting it. Even when the promotion is nothing more than excusing the behavior, it’s being promoted.
When money is to made from breaking up your marriage, do you think that those businesses profiting from your pain will help heal your marriage? They have little to no motivation for healing your marriage.
Those businesses, whether they are lawyers, private investigators, mediators or expert witnesses make the most money when your marriage falls apart. Like vultures, they feast on the carcass of what once was alive.
In the community of Dothan, Alabama, one private investigator claims 50% of his business is from infidelity. He gains from your pain.
Bear in mind that a contested divorce costs between $15,000 to $30,000 or more. Although some of you can afford that kind of expense, many of you can’t. Lawyers know about what they will make when they start meeting with you about your marriage troubles.
When a lawyer stands to gain that much from you as a client, it’s not likely they will encourage the two of you to work things out or even point you in that direction. They may dislike the court proceedings, but all lawyers like getting paid.
You can’t forget about scam artists that use the fear of an affair being exposed in blackmailing you or your spouse out of money as well. Your fears are their payday. They count on you being so afraid of the truth that you’d rather pay them off.
I am the enemy of divorce lawyers, private investigators and scam artists. Instead of encouraging a break-up, I’d rather have the two of you save your marriage. I want you to keep your hard earned thousands, along with your children’s college monies.
Your marriage may well be worth saving. Although you feel hopeless, your own feelings may be deceiving you. Your emotions may be painting the situation worse than it actually is.
In many cases, it could be that you and your spouse don’t know where to start in making productive changes to your marriage. You both want a better marriage but aren’t sure where to start.
This is where my video on “How Can I Trust You Again?” comes in. In the video, you’ll learn ways of healing the wounds from trust breaking behaviors. What happened could be something the two of you can move past, if you do it together and know what changes are needed.
My system for restoring trust may be what the two of you are looking for.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
