Archive for May, 2007
During recovery from an affair, it is often difficult to tell yourself the truth. Although difficult, this is an important task that must be done. You will need to honestly deal with what has happened. Be honest with yourself about what your partner did, what you did, and what it means. Twisting and distorting the […]
There are some couples who believe that all they need to do in order to survive an affair is just love their spouse more. This notion sounds nice, yet working through hurts and pain takes more than romantic ideals. Love does go a long way, and it needs to be accompanied by honesty, good communication, […]
If you can rank affairs in terms of degrees of difficulty to overcome, there are some that are more difficult to overcome than others. The types that are very very difficult include affairs with family members, underage friends of your child, friends of your child, and neighbors. Although each of these categories could be addressed […]
Flirting is often seen as innocent. Flirting is seen as a behavior where no one gets hurt. If you are in the process of recovering from an affair, flirting is something to avoid. Flirting is the spark that ignited the desires that brought on the mess. If your partner was the one with the affair, […]
Many affairs develop as a result of opportunities created. In scripture, the admonition to make no provision for evil applies to affairs. Taking a few precautions can often prevent affairs from unfolding. Some things to consider include:
-Maintain communication with your spouse. If you are working late, call them.
-Do not visit bars or clubs when you […]
There are many books and literature in the marketplace. With the plethora of products there are also many agendas. Some of these agendas may supercharge your sex life, but destroy the spirit of oneness in your marriage. Typically those items that advocate ‘open marriage’ are not conducive to developing a spirit of oneness desired in […]
In working through an affair, some decisions will need to consider the unique relationship between you and your spouse. What worked for mom and dad may be a good thing to do, but is it the best thing to do? They discovered what worked for their relationship. it often requires effort to find what works […]
Determining the “right” thing to do is not always easy. What the “right” thing to do is has a great deal to do with what standard you use. That standard will also determine what options are available. If you go to a lawyer, they will inform you concerning your legal options, if you go to […]
In working with couples going through affair situations, there are often difficulties with accountability. Oftentimes, the resolute spouse ‘overlooks’ faults rather than deal with them. It is not that they do not see the faults, they choose not to mention them. By not bringing those items to their attention, it creates a mutual ‘denial’ situation.
In […]
Forgiveness is an issue that many people want but few understand. Forgiveness involves letting go of the emotional pain. It also means letting go of the desire and any right for revenge. Although the right for revenge is let go, that does not excuse any prosecution for laws violated. Only a judge can exempt from […]
