Archive for June, 2007
This is a difficult and challenging question. The answer is often not a pleasant one. What I can tell you is that the statistics indicate that 80% of the time, the adulterer does not marry the person that they had the affair with. Another set of statistics is that many affairs last only about 18 […]
In researching affairs, it has been surprising how many notables were caught up in adulteries. Abraham Lincoln, Franklin D. Roosevelt, John F. Kennedy, Lyndon B. Johnson, Prince Charles, and Joan Crawford. The lives of these persons were filled with heartaches and turmoil. Although they achieved notoriety, they were unable to escape the emotional fallout associated […]
One of the early actions that damage a marriage, is that of withdrawing. When one spouse withdraws, the other often reacts to it. When this happens, the spouses often feel like they are going through the motions of a relationship, yet their heart is not in it. In order to make things work, the hearts […]
In dealing with affairs, I explore questions that others rarely consider. Among those questions are how did people deal with affairs in the 19th century? Human nature has not changed over the years, so what is different now compared with back then?
What I have realized is that although human nature has not changed, society has. […]
Although revenge sounds like something that will reduce the tension, it like divorce creates more problems than it solves. When people honestly look at their motivations for their behaviors in the aftermath of an affair, many actions are driven by revenge pure and simple. Divorce, paybacks, compensating affairs, pilfering property and destruction of property are […]
In responding to affairs, people look for solutions. The major solution that is often presented to couples is that of divorce. Divorce as an options does not work through anything, other than the two lawyers trying to better each other. If you are not interested in what the Bible says regarding adultery, then divorce is […]
I have still not decided whether money or fantasies are the life blood of affairs. Although I have discussed the role of fantasies, I have not fully addressed the issue of money. Affairs take money. Money for dates, gifts, entertainment, housing, etc. The more involved the affair, the more money it takes. If there is […]
In some cases, having an affair may be an indication of a sexual addiction. The dynamics of this type of affair is different that those where the spouse has violated their vows. They have still had an affair, although the drive and motivation behind their actions are different. With the sexual addiction, an affair is […]
When I mention the serial affair, many people give me a quizzical look. This is one of those items that few understand. I have seen serial affairs in two types. The first type is where the person has a series of affairs, one after another. The second type is where the person never ends the […]
I nearly feel out of my seat when I saw the Jessica Alba interview where she talked brazenly about her activities. http://www.tvshark.com/read/?art=arc510
It is this kind of attitude that makes affairs a complicated issue. There are those kind of women (and men) out there. Scripture tells us in Proverbs that there are women who insist they […]
