Archive for March, 2008
The affair has come and gone and you and your spouse are recovering from its effects. Any major change in our lives requires time to adjust to it. As human beings, we are blessed (or maybe cursed) with memories. Some people are better at remembering than others. Memories may be good or bad but they […]
At the grocery store, I commented to my wife about an article in the latest edition of Glamour magazine that addressed “Men’s New Sexual Needs“. I wondered how did people miss some of those needs? In thousands of years, how did they just now discover what those needs were? The incident led me to realize […]
There is an old saying that you cannot make a purse out of a sow’s ears. I never fully understood that saying other than it is difficult to make something good out of something bad. Well, although the Governor Spitzer situation was bad, it has opened the door for many couples to start talking about […]
Surviving an affair may feel like becoming a survivor of a war. You and your spouse may feel battered, uncertain, anxious and afraid of what’s going to happen with your marriage. Depending on the two of you, however, you can rebuild your marriage and discover that there is life after an affair. The experience may […]
Part of the pain involved with coming to grips with affair is the realization that you’ve actually had an affair and that you’ve hurt your spouse deeply. But remember that your spouse, who is also the victim, has been hurt so deeply that reconciliation is only possible with the greatest pains and efforts from you. […]
Take away every single thing that may remind you of your spouse of the occurrence of the affair you may had. It might as simple as a scarf or an article of clothing that reminds your spouse of the affair or removing numbers from your cellphone. Such items trigger her memory of the affair and […]
After the affair that you had, your spouse felt cheated, betrayed, and lost in a sea of doubts and uncertainty. To rebuild your marriage, Your spouse will need to feel that they are the center of your world. Of course, this assumes that you have cut off all ties with the person you had an […]
In order for you to rebuild your marriage after the affair, you should assume responsibility for your actions. Rather than making excuses, accept responsibility. You will not reap any benefits by saying that your wife is no longer the same person you know or that she rarely connects with you anymore. Accept responsibility for your […]
After an affair, one argument for couples to stay together is “for the sake of the kids”. This notion is filled with problems. When the children are the reason for a couple staying together, they feel the pressure. They feel like their parents relationship is depending on them and how they behave. It places inhuman […]
It seems that up in the northeastern US that affairs are going wild. First the Governor of New Jersey, McGreevy was embroiled in an affair situation, then Spitzer and now his replacement, Paterson admits to having had an affair. In Paterson’s case, he admitted that both he and his wife have had affairs. Even now […]
