Archive for May, 2008
One area of great debate concerns the topic of cybersex. This is a concern with many spouses, since they desire physical and emotional fidelity from their partners. Below is a list of some of the signs associated with cybersex behavior.
1. Using suggestive screen names
2. Being secretive about their computer activity.
3. Having secret e-mail or social […]
The recovery community is very familiar with the words of Father Martin. One of his quotes that is very insightful is “Feelings are what we have the most of, but know the least about”. This is true in dealing with the effects of an affair. After an affair, there is a deluge of feelings, which […]
Although the topic of sexual addiction is discussed in erotic literature and romance novels, many people do not recognize the many ways such addictions can show up in their lives. Here is a list of the ten most common forms of sexual addictions. Although many couples do not want to admit that these may be […]
When you are working through the damage of an affair, one of the issues that eventually needs to be dealt with is that of dealing with personal needs and wants. Although to some people this may seem like a simple topic, in the aftermath of an affair, it is not so easy. Since the emotions […]
The mainstream press carried several stories about how Hillary Clinton sat through a sermon on adultery. What people do not realize is that the problem is bigger than adultery. There were several affairs involved with former President Clinton. The issue of dealing with sexual addictions is what they are faced with. Had there been just […]
One hallmark of healthy relationships and families is a sense of loyalty. Loyalty is fine when it is voluntarily given, yet becomes unhealthy or dysfunctional when it is forced. When loyalty must be obtained by coercion, something is wrong in the family. On the surface, the coerced loyalty looks like something that is ‘good’. Although […]
If you ever wondered how the world deals with adultery, here is a recap of the international status of adultery from some of the nations of the world during the past week.
The law makers of Mexico are taking steps to remove adultery from the criminal code of that nation. It seems that no one has […]
After affairs are out in the open, many issues are finally brought out into the open. One ploy used by adulterers is to plant seeds of doubt. While they are in denial, they often block things out either intentionally or unintentionally. The impact of their denial is that it often plants seeds of doubt in […]
The emotional pain associated with affairs makes them more challenging than they need be often, the pain of what we tell ourselves about the affair is more painful than the actual offense. It seems that we embellish and grow madder as more time passes. With these increasing amounts of emotional pain, a new danger arises. […]
Many people do not understand forgiveness and what it involves. One of the areas of confusion concerns ‘making excuses’. In the aftermath of an affair, some resolute spouses search diligently through articles and research looking for answers. Although most are well meaning, the motivation is frequently one of looking for possible excuses. If you ask […]
