Archive for June, 2008
Love is not all that matters in your relationship. Marriage needs commitment and hard work. Love makes everything all right. But you should be willing to do the “dirty work” and sweat it out. If you don’t, then there is a problem in your relationship.
An affair is sure to rock your marriage. Without true […]
I recently went to hear John Bradshaw speak. The nationally known author had plenty to say about affairs. as his talk focused on ‘rigorous honesty’. He addressed his own affairs, and what he found to be motivating them. One of the points that I found of interest was that he mentioned his own sexual addiction […]
Honesty, especially rigorous honesty is a challenge to achieve. Although it is a challenge, the rewards of such honesty is well worth the effort. One of the barriers that prevents couples from obtaining the healing and recovery from an affair or sexual addiction is the reluctance to have such honesty in the relationship.
In many cases […]
As technology changes, the main indicator of cheating or infidelity changes as well. According to family lawyers in Britain, the #1 sign of infidelity is now ‘excessive texting’. Previously it was working late. Now the main tell tale sign of cheating is excessive texting on the cell phone. With the new technology, infidels have found […]
Some couples create problems for themselves by assuming they know what their spouse is thinking. Some even go so far as to complete sentences and attempt speaking for their spouse. These kinds of behaviors and assumptions do not enhance communication, they actually obstruct it. communication is more than just the words, it also includes the […]
Rather than wait until an affair happens, it is important that you define what behaviors and attitudes that you will not accept in your spouse. You need to define your boundaries clearly when it comes to questionable behavior. Will these boundaries keep an affair from occurring? NO the boundaries will not keep someone determined to […]
What to Do After an Affair
Don’t be frantic when you find out your spouse had an affair. It’s time for you to draw upon your strength and stand up for yourself. You have to remain strong. This, however, should not be your reason for not seeking out the help of your closest […]
There is nothing wrong with being jealous. After all, marriage is founded on an exclusive partnership between you and your spouse. When your spouse shows interest and actively pursues another person, jealousy is a natural reaction to this violation of the trust in your exclusive partnership.
In spite of jealousy, however, affairs can and still […]
After my post yesterday on the effects of lying on children, further insights came to me. When change happens, there are the initial or primary effects and there are the secondary effects. The idea of primary and secondary effects is well established. These ideas also apply human behavior such as lying.
Some of the secondary effects […]
One of the scars of having survived the affair is that you become obsessed with the affair. Not long after, you feel that every single woman that your husband talks to is a potential mistress (If you are the husband, you assume each man is a potential paramour). Your view of the world has changed. […]
