From Heartbreak to Hope

Your Guide to Surviving and Healing After an Affair

Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS

Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS

Jeff Murrah is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor (LCDC) with over 45 years of experience. After experiencing the devastation of infidelity firsthand, he dedicated his career to helping families overcome similar challenges.

A pioneer in online counseling since 1999, Jeff's work has been featured on Wall Street Journal Radio and the Larry Elder Show. In 2010, he was selected for inclusion in the "Counseling Courier's Marriage Counselor Hall of Fame" as one of the top 15 marriage and family counselors. Jeff is also a Certified Mental Health & Nutrition Clinical Specialist (CMNCS) and Farm Response Certified.
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​​​​​​​A sixth-generation Texan, Jeff earned his degrees from the University of Houston at Clear Lake. Married since 1985, he and his wife Peggy have three sons and two granddaughters and reside in the Texas Hill Country.

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